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>the normalization of jealousy as an indicator of love
That's the ONLY argument here that has any value. Commitment does require mutual fidelity, which can cause jealousy when someone is insecure or/and their significant other is not quite loyal.

>the idea that a sufficiently intense love is enough to overcome any practical incompatibilities
Well, yeah, love isn't always strong enough. Luckily, we live in a culture in which we aren't forced to stay with people we aren't compatible with.

>the idea that you should meet your partner’s every need, and if you don’t, you’re either inadequate or they’re too needy
Bullshit. That's a toxic relationship, not "toxic monogamy".

>the idea that a sufficiently intense love should cause you to cease to be attracted to anyone else
Nobody says that. Nobody can force you to not be attracted to anyone else. But that doesn't mean you should go fuck them.

>the idea that commitment is synonymous with exclusivity
But that's how it is. If you're committed, you can give up this little bit of hedonism away for someone you love.

>the idea that marriage and children are the only valid teleological justifications for being committed to a relationship
This is a thing that only a person who has never been in love could say.

>the idea that your insecurities are always your partner’s responsibility to tip-toe around and never your responsibility to work on
One more bullshit. Another indicator of a toxic relationship, completely unrelated to monogamy.

>the idea that your value to a partner is directly proportional to the amount of time and energy they spend on you, and it is in zero-sum competition with everything else they value in life
Jesusfuckingchrist what kind of relationships has the author of that post been through? This is never a case when you're not a self-centered asshole.

>the idea that being of value to a partner should always make up a large chunk of how you value yourself
No one imposes this on anyone. But being a good boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife is gratifying by itself, and if you don't understand that, I feel sorry for you.

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